There is always a choice when it comes to the perspective you have in your life. Emotional bondage is not influenced by another it is your point of attraction even though it is in the negative.
When faced with this type of emotion of what is not working in your life, try and think about what is working. Even if what is working is not related to what is not working. This change of thought redirects your point of attraction which then changes what wasn’t working in the first place.